Have you heard that Audio Adrenaline song Kings and Queens? I cannot listen to it without crying…
Break our hearts once again
Help us to remember when
We were only children hoping for a friend
Boys become kings, girls will be queens
Wrapped in Your majesty
When we love, when we love the least of these
Then they will be brave and free
While the focus of the song is primarily about children in need, it always hits me HARD in the gut because in this fast paced world that only seems to be getting faster, children can so easily become caught up in the fray and forgotten.
“Do this, do that, do it faster/better, don’t do that, don’t do this, you’re not capable let me do it instead”, are all messages that I see driven into children’s tender little minds far too frequently, and often without the intent of doing so. I mean, I have to catch myself EVERY DAY that I don’t unwittingly do this to my kids. For example, we’re rushing out the door, late, and I ask them to get their shoes. Either they get the wrong shoes, or they get distracted by something shiny along the way and instead of allowing them to finish the task I snatch them up and finish it myself. It is FAR TOO EASY to teach them that they’re not capable, I have to watch this in myself every single day of my life.
I mean IMAGINE being a toddler. You want to do it all, yourself. You want to do it well! But NOTHING ever goes as you plan. Your fingers are too clumsy and you drop your milk so the next thing you know, your milk is taken away. You want to hold the pretty thing on the table, but you reach too fast and knock it over, and now you’re in trouble. You want to open the door, but you knock your sister over and now she’s screaming. I mean, HOW INCREDIBLY FRUSTRATING. Almost every single dang thing you try to do results in failure or you getting in trouble or both! No wonder they cry!
And of course sometimes I have to take over, perhaps we are going to miss the doctor appointment if I don’t. But I really, really try to be conscious that I don’t just barge in and deflate them. And it’s HARD sometimes! Sometimes the milk has spilled for the umpteenth time and I want to scream. Sometimes, I don’t handle it well at all. But I really do try. Because right now I am teaching them their perception of themselves. And I truly want with all my heart for them to grow up knowing that they are future kings and queens who can accomplish anything they set their mind to because the Creator of the entire universe is on THEIR side. I want them to believe in their own abilities and never doubt whether or not they are capable. It might be moving a shoe today, but it could be a mountain tomorrow. It seems so repetitive some days, but it’s so very important. What we teach them today WILL define their tomorrow. And so I will take yet another deep breath, swallow my frustration and smile, and wipe the milk up yet again. Because as hard as it can be some days, I know without a doubt in my heart that one day I will look at my confident, grown up kings and queens and know that every single time was worth it.