Alright, I’m about to get super real with you all. Like bare it all real. And no better way than just to rip off the bandaid and jump right in, yes? So, here goes.
I have never felt ‘beautiful’ or ‘sexy’. Certainly not in my teenage years and it only got worse in college. Ok since we are being bare soul honest here it got WAY WORSE. I went to school with a bunch of girls who had both ample time and money to always look amazing and here I was, working all night catering and at Starbucks, very tired and soooo not wearing anything Prada. Fast forward to post twin pregnancy and let’s just say, my self image had definitely NOT improved. Ha. Who are we kidding, my self image went to the dumpster. And whew is it ever way too easy to continue wearing those old maternity clothes, whether they fit or not.
Add to that the mom guilt that taking care of myself somehow seemed selfish and proud, and enter the BEYOND Hot Mess Mom Express. I comforted myself that somehow I was a hero for not taking time to feel beautiful, that somehow not taking care of myself made me a better mother, that somehow sacrificing myself meant I loved my children more. Add to THAT looking at social media images of women and mothers who do take time to look presentable and have resources to do so and this mama went into a steep decline. I mean, WHY EVEN BOTHER bathing when I look this bad anyway! Comparison IS a thief of joy (note I said “A” thief not “THE” thief). But we cannot help but compare ourselves mamas, especially when you have hair that hasn’t been washed in lord knows how long and you’re hardcore stalking your Instagram mama friend who looks like she just stepped out of a professional Hollywood salon and has buns of steel to boot. (And there is NOTHING wrong with looking like that!!!)
Fast forward again to a few months ago when I was introduced to the makeup world by a lovely mama friend of mine. In short, that introduction started me on a journey that has changed more than I ever imagined it could. I chose to study to become a makeup artist, and see every day first hand the difference when I do a makeover on a tired mama who has forgotten or perhaps never really knew her own beauty. Chins lift, shoulders straighten, eyes brighten with renewed life. It’s not that it’s ‘just makeup’, it’s a tool to help women see themselves in a truer light, without our unkind self filtering system. I watch it help them see themselves as physically attractive, not just as tired, worn out, lumpy Mom Sacks. We view ourselves through such harsh, cruel filters mamas.
And, for the first time in my life, I am learning to see my own beauty. Even now I hardly have the guts to write that. I’ve deleted and rewritten it more times than you want to know. But I know I am not alone in this. And I know so many mamas can relate, so many are in this same place. And if there is one thing I want to do, it’s help us change how we see ourselves. For us. For our children. Because I want my children to see themselves so very differently than I have viewed myself all these years. Because mamas, THERE IS NOTHING WRONG IN FEELING BEAUTIFUL. I believe we were designed to feel beautiful, to celebrate it, to enjoy it. Beauty on the inside is what counts yada yada yes of course but if we feel ugly on the outside, inner beauty is dang hard to hold on to. It says in the Bible that God created us in His own image. And I’m willing to bet a lot that God’s image is not an ugly one. We were created beautiful. Inside and out.
Now, the facts are that many of us don’t have the resources for ample self care. In addition to fighting the mama guilt beast, us mamas don’t always have oodles of time, money and resources. And it’s hard to spend that time and resources when we have little people who genuinely need so much. But I have seen how important it is to see our own beauty mamas. To feel beautiful. To feel proud. And I know there is a way for us to overcome the guilt, to be and feel beautiful. And thus I am launching Thrifty Chic Mama Express to help us Hot Mess Express mamas remember how beautiful we are and remember we are WORTHY.
Once a week I will be publishing a post with a FASHIONABLE outfit, a makeup tutorial, sometimes a hairstyle or a small self care practice such as a helpful food or short exercise, or even a very simple self care DIY. The outfits will be made out of clothes I sourced from thrift stores and the makeup tutorial will be a look that takes ten minutes or less and teaches you how to maximize products. Every thing will be easy, affordable, and attainable. And if you’re like me, you’re thinking, GIRRRLL you cannot depend on what you find in thrift stores and it’s WAY overwhelming to even go look. But fear not mamas, I’ve been practicing and I am going to teach you all my thrift shopping ways. I get in there with twins, find what I’m looking for, and GET THE HECK OUT.
There will be no buy now option for the clothes, since, well, it will be from thrift stores. BUT they will be easy to replicate looks that I will be showing you how to use in multiple ways for multiple outfits. So no, you won’t have to buy a new outfit every week, I’m going to show you how I get basics that can be changed around so many ways. And I will also be showing you how to maximize what you need for makeup.
I am so excited to do this journey together mamas, and I truly hope I can play a small part in helping you remember and celebrate how beautiful each of you truly is. I’ll be publishing the first Thrifty Chic Mama Express post this weekend, I can’t wait to hear what you think.